Wednesday, 9 July 2014

Teacher buy or not to buy. That is the question.

Should you buy a thank you gift for a teacher?

It's the end of our son's first year at school. He's had a great reception year and has settled really well into school.

The quality of teaching and care he's received at school has been excellent. The progress he's made with literacy since last September is brilliant.

We, genuinely, are really pleased with his school.

So should we buy his teacher an end of year thank you gift? It's the talk of the playground, and I'm really in a dilemma about it.

Some people are going all out - tens of pounds for a one off treat. Some people are doing small gifts like chocolates. Some are giving a bottle of wine.

And I don't know whether to join in or not. Would you?

Teaching is after all, his teacher's job. She has done what she's supposed to do. At parent's evening and after every school concert, we’ve said thank you and told her how pleased we are with our son’s progress.

The education our son has received is also down to a whole range of people within the school - his PE teacher, the classroom assistant, all the cooks and dinner staff, playground supervisors, even the cleaners who regularly have the unpleasant task of unblocking toilets. It seems disrespectful to give a gift only to his teacher. So should I send something for all?

And then there are the neverending costs of school. Last month alone we've had a school trip, raffle tickets and prizes, cake making and buying, class photos, school dinners and an artwork sale. These costs aren't insignificant, so do we really want to add 'gifts' to those?

But then, there's the peer pressure of all the Mums in the playground who will be giving a gift. I know our son would feel really left out if he was the only one who didn't give a gift out of his whole class.

He likes his teacher, and teaching assistant. He knows they work hard for him. Any he has asked if we can get something for the dinner lady that goes out of her way to help him every day.

They've all done a great job so why shouldn't they be rewarded with a gesture of thanks?

I'd love to know what you think, and what you did in this situation. Please help me make up my mind!


  1. I'm getting my girls teachers a card and gift each....They have been brilliant!
    I'm only spending a few pound though....Just a token of my appreciation :)

    1. I think that's the way we're going too - just a token. They really do a brilliant job.

  2. I will be entering this minefield next year....!! Like you say, they are doing what they are paid to do, but at the same time I know how nice it is to get some extra acknowledgement when I've worked really hard on something. I think I'd go for a big box of chocolates or biscuits to go in the staff room. But ask me again in a year's time!!

    1. Ha ha, yes I will ask you again next year !